Submission in marriage can be GREAT if you do it in the best way. However, there can be some confusions as to which one is the best way to be a Biblical submissive wife.
In Christianity, it is widely believed that as a wife, submitting to your husband is a duty. But in reality, it doesn’t quite work that way. Yes, submission in marriage is important, but if you really look at ALL of the women in the Bible who rocked their marriages like rockstars, we have 3 important secrets to learn about the truth of submission in marriage. These 3 incredible truths about submission in marriage will transform any woman who applies them to her life.
Eve was created from the taken rib of Adam, near the heart. This is a symbol of her mission, to be a loving partner.
So here are those three incredible truths about submission in marriage for any Biblical Wife:
You Should Submit As Complementary Help
It’s true that, as a Biblical wife, submitting to my husband is a commandment. A serious commandment from God. But what does it mean really? In order to grasp better what this commandment from God means, it’s necessary to go to the Word of God. Specifically in:
Genesis 2:18: The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
See how our Lord said “suitable helper“? (emphasis on the word helper). Successful Christian authors Timothy and Kathy Keller did a study in which they found out that the word helper in this Bible verse has an INCREDIBLE, much deeper meaning than what English allows it to mean. It comes from the Hebrew word “ezer”, which doesn’t mean “help” in the American way as we would understand it. This Hebrew word for help connotes a kind of help without which an important task would be impossible to do, like the help from an entire army in winning an important war!
Meaning it would impossible for man to live without the Godly help from her wife. You can learn more about that here.
Just beautiful right? Everyone should learn Hebrew and study the Bible in its original language.
This is the meaning that our beautiful Lord and God gave to Eve and consequently for all women, when He created the first woman.
So, onto the next truth:
You Shouldn’t Submit To Your Husband If He Is In Sin
Now that we have made clear that you are that vital Godly help that your husband needs, we move on to the next unknown truth about submission in marriage. Is there a limit to your mission as beautiful Godly help? The answer is yes.
Where does this limit begin? You are the God-given holy help that your husband needs, however, the limit begins in a place where you can’t help your husband with: if he commits sin.
This may be a shocking example, but if you notice that your husband visits adult websites or other forms of adult entertainment, don’t support that of course. Very lovingly tell him what is right and what is wrong according to the Word of our Lord.
If he is unfaithful, the same principle obviously applies.
You should not help/support his sin or under any circumstance submit to him if he is in sin.
It’s quite simple, and this is very easy to understand because, as a Biblical wife, and like all the women in the Bible who were just astonishingly wonderful holy women to look up to, your mission is to do God’s will.
It’s the reason why our beautiful Lord stated this:
Matthew 5:32: “But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery”.
Emphasis should be made on “except for sexual immorality“. He stated this because as Biblical wives, He loves us, and if your husband commits a sin, or cheats, it is definitely not expected of you to support that, instead He would want you to be free of that, to the point that He gives us the permission to divorce.
Which brings me to my next and most important point.
You Should Submit To Christ First
Lastly and most importantly, in your mission to be the Biblical woman and wife that God meant you to be, your husband is not your priority, but Christ is. Let me say that again. Your devotion is to Christ first, and not to your husband. As such, it is do your duty to keep every holy commandment from Christ, even if it means getting into trouble with your husband.
Your inspiration for this really important mission can be Esther, who was an incredible Biblical woman. We found out just how much of an inspiration she can be in this Bible verse:
eSTHER 4:15: “Then Esther sent this reply to Mordecai: 16 “Go, gather together all the Jews who are in Susa, and fast for me. Do not eat or drink for three days, night or day. I and my attendants will fast as you do. When this is done, I will go to the king, even though it is against the law. And if I perish, I perish”.
When she was in trouble, Esther did not trust anyone but God and started to look for him fervently in hardcore fasting and prayer. The beautiful Esther did not trust in her husband(who was the king), her uncle Mordechai, her friends, or ANYTHING but God. He is the one that you should trust above anything, because when you do so, you’ll be the ultimate Biblical wife and woman.
These 3 truths about submission in marriage will transform any woman who applies them. And always remember, God loves you immensely! Us Biblical women are SO loved by God, because we make Him our priority and our total devotion like we must.